The relationship with ourselves is the most wonderful relationship one can have; therefore, embracing the glorious mess that we are, is the first step we must take in order to start truly loving ourselves. Some may say that putting ourselves first is really selfish, to which I disagree. I believe that selfishness comes in only when we start expecting the world also to put us first. I also believe that selfishness is to jump into a relationship for the sake of being loved, instead of, to love someone for the sake of loving, which is angelic. Basically, loving ourselves is never about being selfish; it is about self-love. We need to love ourselves and love will grow more and more. Then, if we choose to enter a relationship, we don’t go into it because we need to be loved. It becomes a choice. If we choose someone to love him/her, and that person says, “Well, I don’t love you,” is that a reason for us to suffer? Just because someone rejects us doesn’t mean we have to reject ourselves. If one person doesn't love us, someone else will love us. There is always someone else. And it’s better to be with someone who WANTS to be with us than to be with someone who HAS to be with us. Remember, self-love requires courage; thus, have the strength to be who you are in a world that tries desperately to make you different. Never compromise to be who you are not.